Build a RAFT to Get Through Your Goodbyes

 

无论你的情况如何，在接下来的几周里你都要和很多人说再见. 说一段恰当而美好的再见对于健康地过渡到下一篇章是很重要的. 根据国际知名书籍的作者大卫·波洛克的说法 Third Culture Kids, a good way to do this is building a RAFT. This is an approach you can apply now and for any future transitions. Here is how it works:

 

This means forgiving. Repair any broken relationships before you leave. Don't go away with an icky feeling. It might be walking up to the person you fought with and talking to them. You can do this with a friend if you don't want to do this alone. 你可以说，“很抱歉X之后我们没怎么说话，但我祝你暑假愉快。!" The outcome, of course, depends on the other person's response. 但不管他们的反应如何，你已经尽力为自己结束了这一篇章! 你想平静地离开，并在此之前理顺你们的关系. 这样，你就避免了糟糕的记忆和额外的包袱，否则你可能会随身携带多年.

 

我们通过积极的肯定来建立和维持友谊和关系. In this case, it might be writing your favourite teacher a farewell note, 送给你的室友一张你们俩的特别照片，或者送给你的朋友一件他们非常喜欢的红色t恤. A friendly word and hugs count as well! With this, you are showing them (friends, teachers, cleaning staff…) your appreciation, what you have learned from them and what they meant to you.

 

安排时间和你最喜欢的朋友、老师、员工和其他人说再见.

X's baby), places (Traditions), 动物(老师的狗)和财产(你没有带的画). Ah, and your room! These are all like little ceremonies and will take longer than you think. Make a list and tick goodbyes off. Hug, cry and hug some more!

 

Even while you are still using up the tissues with a heavy heart, you need to think realistically about your destination, your future, this summer. Where are you going? Your parents' house, your home country, a new country? Do you need to prepare anything before you leave? What do you need to organize? 考虑目的地也意味着计划一些你在夏天要做的活动. 这可以是拜访朋友，夏令营，你计划看的电影或者你想见的人. 当你还在说再见的时候，向前看也同样重要!

 

With this, you have everything to build your first "raft.“我并不是说这很容易，因为你可能会感到悲伤、矛盾和陌生. 你甚至可能会认为，在接下来的几周里，躲在房间里，然后直接回家可能会更容易. 但你现在做的是故意结束体育菠菜大平台2022-23的章节 you!

 

无论何时你离开一个地方，你都可以用这个技巧说再见, a country or a school in the future. Enjoy making these memories!

 

I wish you all a great summer 2023!!

 

Kindly,

 

Andrea

安德里亚·施密特是一名生活教练，专门从事青少年和前斯坦斯特德的父母(杰西卡·洛扎诺·施密特2018). Find out more about her services at http://www.globalgirlcoach.com/ or email andrea@globalgirlcoach.com.